DH gave me his rosary ring to wear and it fits comfortably on my middle finger. However, my concern is that in working for the church, I do not want to give cause for scandal. I don't want people (that don't know me) to look at me clearly expecting and not wearing a wedding band, and then think something that isn't.
I know that it is their own reasoning that would lead them that way, but still I don't want to lead others into judgemental thoughts.
We've talked about getting me a plain inexpensive band...but is it really worth it when it's only a few more weeks?
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I took my rings off at something like 26 weeks and they still aren't back on. Even though all the swelling is gone, it is hot and they don't seem to want to go back on. I felt odd everywhere I went. I just kept telling myself that I must be more judgmental of others than they are of me. Maybe no one notices. I did make sure to use the word husband lots when I would talk to people :)
Could you wear your ring on a chain around your neck?
I think it's perfectly normal for women, especially late in pregnancy, to need to take their rings off... and hopefully most people realize that and don't go judging... if you see someone looking particularly curious, make some comment like "I can't wait to be able to wear my rings again" or "I feel so strange since I've had to take my rings off - it's so hot!"ior something and make them feel bad about even considering such things...
I think it's normal as well, and if anyone should toss you a look of judgment after a glance at your left hand, simply grasp that opportunity to suffer a bit of humility, join it with Christ's suffering, and offer it up. :) And cluck, cluck for anyone judging you in that way. That is God's arena. ;)
I see you have only about to two months to go...how exciting! Praying that you have a gentle last trimester without too much discomfort. I went through a very hot summer when I was pregnant my daughter. She was born over Labor Day weekend. The heat really swells already swollen fingers, so I can totally relate.
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